11 Times You're Misunderstood If You Suck At Expressing Yourself

by N/A, 8 years ago | 2 min read

Words are hard and formulating sentences takes effort.

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1. You have to think about what you say before you say it so it doesn't come out wrong.

You have thoughts formulated, but when you attempt to articulate them, they come out nothing like what it sounded in your head. You've learned your lesson, so before you attempt to say something profound or give any kind of advice, you have to think hard about what you want to say first.

2. There's usually a lot of awkward pauses in your conversations.

Because you're thinking so hard about what to say, there's always a few awkward pauses in your conversations so you can fully formulate your thoughts.

3. People think you're ice cold.

RBF (resting bitch face) is something you suffer from, and you can't help it. You have few words and few facial expressions, so people generally just throw you into the "ice bitch" category, even if you're a warm and fuzzy teddy bear on the inside.

4. People underestimate your intelligence.

Just because you struggle to find words, doesn't mean you're dumb as a doornail. We live in an extroverted world, so people perceive outgoing people who are fluent in language as intelligent, but that doesn't mean less talkative people are less intelligent. While some people may mistake your silence for not having anything smart to say, intellect comes in many forms. Some of the greatest geniuses like Albert Einstein were introverted.

5. Dating can be a bit of a challenge, especially when it comes to the mushy gushy stuff.

Telling your crush or your partner how you feel is just as painful as getting teeth pulled. You want so desperately to be able to say how you feel, but a lot of times it just comes out awkward or cold.

6. Those rare times you do share your emotions, you have to explicitly state that yes, you're sharing how you feel.

People don't always understand that sharing emotions is a huge step for you, and you can't always predict when your brain is having a good fluency day. You have to legitimately spell it out when you're sharing something close to you.

7. Most of the time, you'd rather just write out how you feel.

For some magical reason, writing down how you feel is soooo much more productive than trying to say words.

8. You'd rather just convey how you feel with a look.

You've mastered side-eye and your BFFs know what you're thinking with just a look.

9. Large groups tire you out.

You'd much rather hang out with your close friends than go to a huge party or somewhere where you're expected to talk loud/be around a lot of people at once. It gets tiring trying to keep up with all the extroverted energy.

10. Sometimes you get so frustrated with your inability to formulate words, you completely lash out.

Not one of your finest qualities, but it can be so frustrating when you want to say something but don't know how to say it.

11. You're a great listener.

And that's a super valuable skill that will take you far. A lot of weak points in relationships come from a failure to listen and understand one another - so don't ever underestimate the power of being a good listener.