These 10 Movies About Love Will Rip Your Heart Out And Then Build It Back Together
Movies can teach us a lot about ourselves...
While romance films are dominated by Hollywood, Hallmark and mainstream pop culture's picture-perfect idea of love, these ten films actually portray love for what it is - the good, the bad and the ugly.
Filmed in black and white, Frances Ha depicts the simple story of a twentysomething navigating her way through life. Frances lives with her best friend Sophie, who she has a strained relationship with, and is forced to get her shit together after Sophie announces she's relocating. The writing is raw and honest without feeling too contrived, and you become attached to Greta Gerwig's Frances as she goes through many ups and downs with herself and others.
Like Crazy captures the whirlwind romance of first love. When Anna is banned from the U.S. after overstaying her visa, she and Jacob are separated by distance. They stay together for years, but begin to idealize their relationship, ignoring the fact that as they've grown up, they've grown apart. Though it felt a bit contrived at times, there's a good lesson in there about loving someone so much, you sometimes need to let go so you can grow. Change is inevitable.
Another movie about people falling out of love, Blue Valentine stars Michelle Williams and Ryan Gosling as a married couple whose spark has died out in their romance. The story is told through several flashbacks and present storylines showing just how much relationships change when you've been together for years. It's not a happy movie about love, and is even painful to watch at times, but it without a doubt makes you question whether it's really possible to have a happily-ever-after marriage.
4. Frozen
Frozen was a revolutionary movie for Disney, because it was their first film to not have the true love storyline be between a man and a woman, but rather between two sisters. Regardless of how Disney - and Hollywood - have portrayed love in the past, it comes in many shape and forms, including that of the unconditional familial bond. Honestly, this is why Frozen is the best Disney movie ever.
"You should know upfront this is not a love story," the trailer says.
Told through a captivating nonlinear structure, Tom meets Summer and falls madly in love with her, thinking she's "the one" for him. Only problem is, Summer does not believe in true love - that is, until she finds it with someone else who's not Tom and his world is shattered.
Love sucks, and while you can look for that storybook great love, it isn't worth idealizing something - or someone - who's not worth the time and effort.
It's the classic introspective boy meets manic-pixie-dream-girl story, but the psychological thriller aspect brings depth and complexity. After a fight, Clementine undergoes a procedure to forget Joel, and he becomes so frustrated he does the same. Most of the film takes place in Joel's mind as he's undergoing the surgery, but he realizes while revisiting the happy memories that maybe, just maybe, having those happy moments close to him are worth all the pain and heartbreak he feels.
The Oscar-nominated film is one of the most refreshing rom-coms of all time. Jennifer Lawrence's hostile character Tiffany gets a second shot at love when she forms an unexpected connection with Bradley Cooper's Pat. It's not your typical girl meets boy, they don't think they'll like each other at first but end up falling in love nonsense though - it's a realistic portrayal of the bond between two people who are humans and not just cutesy romantic-comedy archetypes.
"People don't belong to people. I never let anybody put me in a cage," Audrey Hepburn's Holly Golightly says to Paul while he's declaring his love for her. Being in love is scary and confusing, which Holly struggles with, but she ends up learning that allowing yourself to open up to the right person is worth it all.
"We accept the love we think we deserve," is one of the greatest quotes of all time. As Charlie navigates his way through high school as a ~wallflower~ he observes things about people, their interactions and relationships. He falls in love with a girl who doesn't love him the same way back and experiences the pain, heartbreak and at times, happy moments, of being young and in love with someone you consider "perfect."
Sometimes you meet someone and you feel like you've known them all your life. Garden State may be one hell of an angst fest, as Zach Braff is forced to come home and face his demons, but he meets Natalie Portman and suddenly he feels alive again and is able to open up. With a killer soundtrack, Garden State captures that safe feeling you get when you know you've met "your person."
And that in itself is worth everything.